Are your relationships one-sided? Do you often feel like you’re putting everything into meeting your partner’s needs or that it’s impossible to say no? These are signs of codependency, a learned behavior that feeds on low self-esteem and an intense desire to please others. At Tranquil Soul Counseling in Palm Beach Gardens, Florida, Mary K. Tatum, MS, LMHC, an experienced licensed psychotherapist, offers customized counseling services to help you improve your self-esteem, change your behaviors, and improve your relationships. Call Tranquil Soul Counseling or make an appointment online today.
Codependency is a learned behavior that manifests in relationships. If you are codependent, you depend on another person for nearly all your emotional and self-esteem needs. In a relationship, this sometimes leads to enabling your partner to continue irresponsible, dangerous, or underachieving behaviors.
Some of the common characteristics of codependents include:
Codependency was originally identified in the partners of alcoholics and addicts. However, researchers soon discovered that many more people in the general population have codependent characteristics than initially determined.
In a codependent relationship, two people with dysfunctional personality traits become worse instead of better together. Every codependent relationship is unique, but there are some common traits.
For example, you may find that you define your sense of purpose by making sacrifices to satisfy your partner. You may even cover for your partners dangerous or illegal behavior. It’s also common to find it difficult to say no to your partner or keep quiet to avoid arguments.
If you’re concerned about your relationship and think you may have codependent traits, make an appointment with Mary K. at Tranquil Soul Counseling today. She offers customized individual and couples counseling to help you develop your self-esteem. You also learn to recognize negative thoughts and emotions and change the way you behave in response to those feelings.
In couples counseling, you and your partner learn and practice communication skills. You also learn to set appropriate boundaries and respect each other’s wishes without one person always giving in to the other.
Codependents often also have mental health conditions such as depression, anxiety, or substance abuse disorder. Mary K. offers counseling to help you address these issues and improve your overall mental and physical health.
Couples counseling can help you to build a healthy, communicative relationship. Both partners need to be committed to the process and willing to share and be honest and vulnerable. Counseling isn’t always easy, but you and your relationship will be stronger and more stable in the long run.
If you’re concerned about codependency, call Tranquil Soul Counseling or make an appointment online today.